Living in the Moment

I am an intentional memory maker. I talk about it all the time, to anyone who will listen. I’ve written about it here, here, and here. I’m a big believer.

However, I have noticed that sometimes, things don’t go as idylically as I had planned. I find myself frustrated with myself, my husband, and my kids. It makes it hard to abide by one of my biggest life rules: If I can’t do ______ and still be kind to my husband and kids, I won’t do it.

A while back there was a post that really struck a chord with me. Leo Babauta of Zen Habits was writing about How to Master the Art of Living. In his post, he wrote about expectations of moments:

“As we enter each new moment, we expect things from it. We want it to be fun, amazing, productive, according to plan. And of course each moment has its own plan, and will be its own thing. So we are not happy with it. Instead, we can drop the expectations and just see the moment as it is. Just experience it, noticing, appreciating, being grateful. This is mastery.” – Leo Babauta (Zen Habits)

I think this is what I was starting to understand when I wrote this post. But I still have so much to learn.

As memory keepers who are intentional about creating special experiences for our friends and family, it can be easy to lose sight of why we are doing it. It can quickly move from wanting to create a special memory that will live on in our children’s minds to becoming a quest for creating a memory that will look good on Instagram, Facebook, and blog posts. We want a memory that will match our newest kit or be the perfect end for our photo book. And when the moment doesn’t go according to our best-laid plans, we get frustrated.

And so, as I begin a new week, I want to strive to let go of the expectations and instead just let the moments happen. This doesn’t mean I won’t be intentional, but I will do my best to let go of expectations for what emotions an experience will create and instead enjoy what does happen. I want to live in the moment. It might not be what I expected….it might be better.